Musical Monday – Love it, Don’t Want it

Posted by SaraG on June 3, 2019


I’d like to think of myself as not being a particularly picky person, that I’m pretty open to whatever comes at me. And for the most part, that’s fairly accurate – I may not love everything, but I can consume almost anything happily enough be it food, television, or music.  Except for olives, those are disgusting. And most things recommended by my husband because he’s weird and artsy and I am super not.

But, if I’m being honest with myself, I am a little picky. I mean, you have to be in order to enjoy life. If you aren’t at least a little discerning, you’re either overwhelmed or not genuinely enjoying what you’re doing. That sounds a bit dramatic, but think about it, If you don’t carefully make decisions about how you’re handling your entertainment, you’re going to miss out on the stuff that hits home for you and waste time on the stuff that just only kind of makes you happy. That’s no way to live. You have to learn how to either put the drama that isn’t satisfying you on hold or to drop it altogether. You also have to figure out a way to narrow down the musical playing field so you can focus on those genres, groups, solo artists, or styles that make you the happiest the most consistently.

It’s obvious by the last two and half years worth of posts on Kchat Jjigae that I like a sampling of music from across a lot of different genres and styles and that I enjoy solo stuff as well as group stuff. But it’s also quite clear that I tend to favor male artists over female. When you look at my collection of physical albums, the gender bias is even more apparent. I own a total of zero albums by female artists. I have purchased a few – gifts for my niece and daughters – but I don’t actually own my very own. This hurts my feminist soul, but I have limited funds and storage space and I know what I want — and they’re all dudes.

Lately, though, there have been a few really excellent girl groups knocking on my heart that are tempting me like crazy. If I still didn’t have to get the new A.C.E. and Oneus, I’d be eyeballing a few recent and older releases by Rothy, Minseo, EXID, and a few others. One particular song that’s caught my fancy, firmly set in the girl group zone, is Weki Meki’s Picky Picky. I don’t know what about it makes it so special. I’m completely unsure as to why it’s rubbing me in just the right way but I’ve listened to it four times today already and I’ve got a few more listens in me. I adore the song, the sentiment is so fun and identifiable, and the MV is gorgeous. Yes, it’s a Kpop girl group MV, they are hot, synchronized, and styled to within an inch of their lives…but they’re doing science (kind of) and sports (questionably), and ‘playing’ instruments. It’s pretty close to kpop girl power (which I have a lot of thoughts about).

So, as you sit there narrowing down what makes you happy in order to actually be happy, remember to try a few things outside of your norm every now and again just to see what might happen. Remember to re-evaluate what it is you like and don’t like because people do change. You might fall in love and figure out that you’re not as picky as you thought were. Just ask Stephanie, she’s started branching out in a million new and fantastic ways and it’s made her commute oh so much more enjoyable. Well, that’s what she tells me anyway.

Picky Picky, Weki Meki


  • Reply DBChen June 3, 2019 at 7:40 am

    I would love to hear your thoughts on K pop girl power.

    • Reply SaraG June 9, 2019 at 4:22 pm

      I’ll have to think about how to articulate my thoughts for a post…or, we’ll have to have a chat about it sometime. The notion that these women are able to take small steps in advancing female artists within the confines they’re given is really interesting to me. And the obvious internal support many artists like Amber and Hyosun, who stand out as inherently more masculine and powerful within the girl group construct, is both welcome and challenging.

  • Reply DBChen June 3, 2019 at 7:45 am

    I’m a feminist too and am trying to raise my daughter to be an empowered girl. I too find that most of what I listen to are male groups.

    I think that’s a matter of what women are given to sing as opposed to male groups. And most of the groups that tour the US are male, which limits even more who I can take my daughter to go see in person.

    Female K pop I listen to:
    BlackPink (finally had a girl group to take my daughter to!)
    Red Velvet
    gugudan “Not That Type”

    Yeah, I skew away from the cutesy songs and concepts.

  • Reply Stephanie June 3, 2019 at 9:09 pm

    It’s very true, thanks to a commute and Google Play, I’m going from what I am afraid was almost an anti girl group mentality, to a hey, some of these aren’t bad. I will admit, I’m not certain who said it to me but the realization of more girl groups coming in at lower vocal register really helps. Not sure why that is. Today I was angry walking and needed a good “Strut your stuff” song, and surprisingly? I went with Kill This Love from Black Pink. Such a march on anthem.

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